A couple weeks ago, I posted a list entitled “You Might be a Mom of (All) Boys If.” It was so much fun, and I had all these ideas that really had more to do with number of children rather than gender of children, so I decided to do another list!
For the record, our transition from 2 to 3 children was harder than our transition from 3 to 4. Part of it had to do with our third child. He had a pretty bad case of infant reflux (that lasted until age 2), and we spent his entire first year trying to get him to eat enough to grow! But part of it had to do with going from “man to man defense” to “zone defense.” Once you’re at zone, you might as well keep going, so we had baby #4! Jonathan has been an easier baby than Owen by far. He’s a better eater, and he also is not “into everything” the way Owen was (and still is!). However, I feel like my brain has been maxed out by four children in ways that it wasn’t with three. I feel like I have lost the ability to remember and keep up with things. Someone will call and say, “Hey, I’m stopping by your house to drop off that stuff!” and my mind is scrambling to remember what “stuff” they are talking about! Have any of you had that experience?
Anyway, on to the list! (Oh, and a big thanks to several of my “real life” friends who contributed ideas!)
- One day’s worth of clothing for everybody yields as much laundry as you used to do in a week.
- You could make sock puppets for an entire preschool out of your stash of mismatched socks.
- You can’t make it through a trip to the grocery store without someone commenting on how you “have your hands full.”
- A trip to the grocery store requires a procession of either two carts or a cart plus a stroller following behind (that’s what we usually do – Aidan pushes Jonathan in his stroller so that I can contain Owen in the cart. It’s quite a scene!).
- You buy half a dozen bananas and run out the same day.
- When you go out with one other family, people assume you are a school group. (True story! Happened to us last week at a museum!)
- You can’t get through a phone call with an automated system because the system does not accept “Stop hitting your brother!” as an answer.
- You make a phone call and scramble to remember whose number you dialed before they pick up.
- Your standards of “being ready to go out” have relaxed greatly (i.e. make-up and shower optional).
- Try as you may, you can’t remember what time you last fed the baby or how many times he woke up during the night.
- When calling for a child, you yell an interesting combination of their siblings’ names before arriving at the right one. (I did this with only 2 kids, but it has definitely gotten worse with 4!)
- You have become skilled at reviewing spelling words while simultaneously washing dishes and writing down a menu plan.
- The house feels quiet with “only” three children at home. (If just one child is at a friend’s house, the whole dynamic changes here!)
- A great date consists of a trip to Walmart with your hubby and no kids.
- Somewhere in your house there is a closet full of tubs of clothing in every size from newborn on up.
- Your house is a blast because you have enough participants for a really good game of hide-and-seek or baseball in the back yard.
- You are blessed because your children don’t just have a brother or a sister – they have a whole cheering section.
- And finally, you are never lonely, because someone always wants to be with you. All that laundry, noise, mess, and chaos means that your home and heart are full of little people who have been entrusted to your care!